“How do you deal with it when you know that a child is being abused at home?” she asked me the other night.
“Well, that’s a hard question,” I responded, “and I guess the answer is that you allow yourself to feel whatever it is that the Lord has you to feel.”
I told her that it’s ok to be sad FOR them, and it’s ok to be sad WITH them. It’s ok to throw yourself on the floor and weep for what you know that they are experiencing. It’s ok to cry out to the Lord and tell him it isn’t fair.
In a way, when you do that, you are walking alongside them in their suffering. Yes, they may not know it. But you are hurting with them, and in that, getting a tiny glimpse into the Lord’s heart for the poor and oppressed.
There’s a Scottish man who runs a children’s home about an hour outside La Ceiba. He has told me several times, “The day you stop crying is the day it’s time to go home.” [Best read in a Scottish accent]
And I believe this to be true.
I have been told that I need to get tougher or I’m never going to be able to do this job. I’ve been told that I need to harden my heart a little bit. This advice was given to me by people who love me and who don’t want to see me hurting so much each day. But the truth is, I don’t want to stop hurting for these boys that I love so dearly. You see, it isn’t my heart that needs to be hardened, it’s my heart that needs to learn to give these burdens to the Lord.
“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” –1 Peter 5:7
So, dear friend, in answer to your question, “Throw yourself on the ground, weep and moan, beg the Lord for deliverance, and then GIVE IT TO HIM.”
Funny thing is, I have yet to learn to do this for myself.